Friends and relatives who want to be supportive sometimes have a hard time choosing the right gift to give to a loved one who has had a miscarriage. What advice would you give them? Were there any particular gifts you received after your miscarriage that were particularly meaningful to you, or do you have any suggestions on gifts to avoid after miscarriage? Share your tips here.
A basket of pampering treats
- A group of friends got together and organised a gigantic basket of treats and spa products. They included warm socks and a cushy bath robe, a plethora of magazines and chocolate. This was so delightful and so lavish - I felt wonderful digging through the basket and uncovering layer after layer of fun suprises. This helped me feel supported, and made me smile for days and days after. I still enjoy the bath products, socks and robe at every opportunity I can get. This was a perfect healing tool.
- —Guest May
Caring support after miscarriage
- I found that just having someone willing to listen and care and offer support helped (although we did not get that much from family and friends). We found that many people just did not acknowledge the loss and even now three years later, find it difficult around the holidays (the time that I miscarried). Some of the simple things like a card saying you care and are thinking about the person helps, it shows that they have acknowledged the loss and even though they cannot understand how it feels to lose a child, you feel they care. Someone who I did not know that well who was even pregnant at the time gave me a CD and a memory book which made me feel very special. Everyone experiences loss differently but what hurt me the most was people judging me and talking behind my back and not saying anything. If there is one thing I have learned from this traumatic experience, it is what to say and what not to say to someone going through miscarriage.
- —Guest Joyce