From the article: When Miscarriage Grief Becomes Depression
Women who have had a miscarriage are at risk for developing depression, but the signs of what is depression may be hard to distinguish from the effects of normal grief. A key difference is that grief should become more bearable with time. And if it doesn't seem to, you might be depressed and might benefit from treatment. If you have dealt with depression after a miscarriage, share your tips for others on how and when to know when to seek help. (And note that even if you're not clinically depressed, a grief counselor may be helpful in working through your feelings.)
I feel alone
- I understand what you are saying! I lost my baby and turned around to find my sister and coworker pregnant. I work in a baby store and even though it's not their fault I hate the pregnant women who come register. Why do they get to have babies when I lost mine? And none of my friends seem to really understand what I'm going through and that telling me "god had a reason" or "you'll have other babies" doesn't help it just demeans the life I had growing.. I wish you all luck on the path of healing, I know I need it.
- —Guest michelle
Time doesn't necessarily heal
- My wishes for peace for Shelly and Ginny. I have had two miscarriages, both in the same year, almost two years ago. I have no hope of future pregnancy and adoption chances are slim. I have had many friends and family members with healthy pregnancies. I no longer go to baby showers or see newborns. I would like to think that someday I will feel better, but as of now I feel that I have achieved all of the healing that there will be for me, meaning that I can go to work or be with friends and really be there sometimes. I see a therapist. But I fear I will never be right again. I hate people with children, which is not my normal (until now) behaviour.
- —Guest Siobhan
Depression after miscarriage
- Ginny G, So sorry to hear about your loss. I had one not too long ago. I also feel that no one understands. Additionally, it turned out that my sister-in-laws were pregnant with me...the three of us only 5 days apart. After lost mine it was heart breaking for me to be around them. It is even tough for me imagine them having another...when they both have other children and I have none. I just hope that time heals us both.
- —Guest Shelley
Recognizing what is depression
- I had a miscarriage after 4 years of infertility. Now it is 2 months later and 3 of my best friends are pregnant and one just adopted a baby. How do I get over the anger I feel when I'm around them? How in the world do I throw ANY OF THEM a baby?!?!? Knowing that others go through this is not making me feel any better. I still feel like I have no one to talk to. My pregnant friends just don't understand in the slightest and my poor husband can only listen to so much complaining. Will this ever get better?
- —Guest Ginny G
