Many couples struggle with the question of when to try again after a miscarriage or other pregnancy loss. Some people want to go ahead and get pregnant again right away (or immediately after waiting the length of time recommended by a doctor). Others view the idea of trying to conceive again with considerable trepidation, fearing the heartbreak of another loss.
The decision can be difficult. Consider these factors in making your decision on whether you are ready to get pregnant again.
Has Your Doctor Advised You to Wait?
Obviously, you should find out whether specific medical factors in your situation make it advisable to wait a while before trying again. Perhaps your blood work has shown anemia and your doctor wants you to take supplements to replenish your iron stores before getting pregnant. If you had a condition such as a molar pregnancy, your doctor may advise you to wait six months to a year before trying for a new pregnancy.
If your doctor tells you to wait without explaining why, don't be afraid to ask for an explanation.
If You Had Recurrent Miscarriages, Have You Had Testing for Causes?
About half the time, doctors can find a potentially treatable cause for recurrent miscarriages. Women who have had two or three consecutive miscarriages should probably talk to a doctor -- possibly a specialist -- about getting a basic testing workup to rule out treatable causes before getting pregnant again.
Have You Addressed Any Avoidable Miscarriage Risk Factors?
As you may know, certain lifestyle factors such as smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol do increase miscarriage risks, so consider whether you want to address these factors before conceiving again. In addition, certain types of infections and sexually transmitted diseases can increase risk of miscarriage and stillbirth. If you have any such infections, you should wait to get pregnant again until you have been treated.
Obviously not everyone has risk factors for miscarriage, and some are not things you can change, but considering and eliminating any avoidable risk factors will boost your chances for a successful next pregnancy.
Have You Assessed Your Emotional Readiness?
Before trying to conceive again, you should consider whether you are really and truly emotionally ready. If you are suffering from clinical depression or anxiety, or if you think you could not possibly handle the small risk of another loss, you might want to give yourself more time.
Remember that, if you are not ready, waiting a little extra time is not going to hurt anything. On the flip side, you may also feel unable to move on emotionally unless you start trying to conceive again, which is an equally valid feeling.
Is Your Partner Ready to Try Again?
Both parents should be on the same page regarding efforts to get pregnant. If your partner is reluctant to try again, be sure to talk about any concerns and reach an understanding before taking any action. Hidden concerns or anxiety by one person can resurface later to cause problems in the relationship.
