Readers Respond: When to Try to Get Pregnant After a Miscarriage

Responses: 16

After a miscarriage many couples are not sure when is the best time to try to get pregnant again. Doctors give different advice about how long to wait and often the answer on when to try again lies in each couple's emotional readiness. What was your experience, and when did you decide (or when do you plan) to try to get pregnant again? Are you going to wait a few weeks or months, or are you going to try again right away?

Disappointment

I got pregnant December 23,2008. I had my miscarriage at 2 months. I started having problems, and I even got to see my baby. Now it's November 2009, and I'm still not pregnant. We're not using protection, and I want one so bad. I feel like I lost a piece of me, and I'm scared I'll never be pregnant.

—Guest Lilet

5 months and nothing !!

I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after my birthday, which was amazing. Sadly I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was rushed into hospital cuz I was bleeding so much I had to stay in over night with a blood transfusion. It's now been 5 months and nothing yet. :( My heart is breaking and all I want is a baby. I keep telling myself it will happen but some days are hard. The irregular cycles don't help either cuz every month I think I'm pregnant, especialy last month when I was 16 days late! 5 months and I've only had 3 cycles. Hopefully I will have that BFP soon! :) Trying to keep my hopes up and enjoy life with my fiance till that day comes.

—Guest Stacey

Can't wait

I had a m/c at 8 weeks. I didn't get a D&C. My dr. told me to let my body do what it had to do. I am going to the dr. tomorrow to get blood drawn to make sure my hormone levels are down. The nurse told me I had to wait one month to try again. I already have 3 boys 9,6 and 2. It's my first m/c. I got sad but we need to have faith in God because only he knows why these things happen. So everybody that's going through this, just have faith.

—Guest Claudia

It's worth the wait

I found out I was pregnant in Dec. of 2008. I was so excited and I told all my friends and family. Three days later, I miscarried. It's now August of 2009 and I found out I was preg. on Sunday. I'm a little excited and feel like what was missing is finally back...but now I'm starting to stress myself out. I don't want to tell everyone and I can't seem to be happy. I'm REALLY SCARED & worried about all this stress. Will it eventually lead to another miscarriage? The doctor said my body is ok for the baby but my opinion is the stress that comes with the new pregnancy is too much. It's constantly in the back of my mind.

—railarae

Don't rush

Easier said then done. I went in for my 12 week U/S and the doctor said that my baby measured only 9 weeks, baby had no heart beat and never moved. My little bun had passed away at 9 weeks but my body never registered the miscarriage. I had a D&C procedure and was told to wait for 3 full cycles before trying again. My friend had MC at 8 weeks and tried right away to get pregnant. She did and lost that one too at 5 weeks. Like all of you I count the week I would have been in. I'd be in week 15 today and thinking that I would have had the chance to know if this bun was male or female in a week or two. I will wait a few more months before trying. I don't want to go through another heartbreak so I want to make sure to give time for my body to heal and prepare.

—Guest Mommy911

Too soon to know what to do

I miscarried at 7 weeks (2 weeks ago) and desperately want to try again. We were only told to wait until one cycle passes. I don't want to rush if my body needs time to heal and I don't want the raw emotion to influence our choice - we just want a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

—Guest kelly

After 1 Full Cycle

Our Doctor told us to wait for 1 full cycle, which basically just means until you get your period. I got pregnant right away before my miscarriage at 9 weeks, so I thought I would again. 3 months later, I'm still not pregnant and now I'm getting anxious. Like everyone else, each week that passes, I think about where I would be in my pregnancy (25 weeks right now). I want so badly to be pregnant before our original due date because I know that will be a very difficult time for me.

—Guest Carey

Wait three months

The baby we lost at 10 weeks made me and my husband want to get pregnant even more. Just like Kay, I am also counting weeks how far in pregnancy I could have been now, and I wish I was pregnant again right away. On the other hand, I believe that waiting out three cycles will give me just enough time to recover physically, rebuild folic acid stores, learn to manage stress, and detoxify the body with proper diet, all to increase the chances of a healthy conception.

—Guest Linda

Right away

We wanted to get pregnant the next month even though the doctor asked that we should wait till I see my first period, b/cos we wanted to get over the loss.

—Guest Patricia

SO disappointed!

I was pregnant only 6 weeks before my miscarriage and that was 6 months ago. I am still not pregnant and it is hurting my heart! I want a baby so bad.

—Guest Julie

Take a month or two

After my first miscarriage I wanted to try immediately but I did and lost it at nine weeks. I took my doctor's advice and rested for six months and I eventually got pregnant and am now in my eight month. So I would advice anyone who has had a miscarriage not to rush but to give the womb some time to heal.

—Guest effie

Depressed

I miscarried in May and it is now August. We have tried for 3 months and have not got pregnant. I'm now just depressed and I don't even want to try because I'm worried I won't be able to handle another month of failure...

—Guest Sarah

Still not pregnant

I found out I was pregnant on 2-11-09 & when I went to have my 1st ultrasound on March 25, I found out that I was getting ready to miscarry. I had my D&C on March 28, and I've been trying to get pregnant again ever since. Well, now it's almost August and I'm still not pregnant and feel like I never will be. I know how you feel.

—Guest beth

Straight away

After nine miscarriages I still want to try again straight away as it too hard to wait. Every week matters and to go on waiting makes you feel like there is no hope.

—Guest helen

immediately

I agree with Kay b/c I had a similar experience, and having no kids, I was starting to worry that I'd never have a baby after 2 miscarriages. It was very hard when the due date passed and I wasn't pregnant again yet.

—Guest Diana

Right away

We wanted to get pregnant again right away and were annoyed when the doctor said to wait. I felt it made everything harder to wait, as I would be counting the number of weeks that I should have been pregnant from the baby I lost. It was even harder when that due date passed without a new pregnancy.

—Guest Kay