If someone you love is facing Mothers' Day after a pregnancy loss, you may want to recognize her in some special way. It can be hard to know just what to do or say, though.
A card is a simple, thoughtful way to say you’re thinking of your loved one. If you’re not comfortable with any of the pre-printed options available at the drugstore, you can always choose a blank card, or even make one of your own.
Try to tailor your message to the recipient. Not every mom is religious, or comfortable with the idea of her baby being an angel. Others might be questioning whether or not it’s even OK to recognize the holiday. Trust your instincts and choose words that feel natural and appropriate to you.
Below you’ll find suggestions for simple messages to include in the card.
Places to Look for Inspiration
Poems. Whether you find an already published poem, or come across one written on-line by a grieving parent, there is a lot of lovely poetry about love and loss. There are even some specific to the topic of Mothers' Day. Our funeral planning section has a list of poetry you might want to browse for ideas.
Songs. It seems like popular music tackles the topic of loss more than any other kind of creative expression. Some songs are entirely appropriate, while others may have just a line or two that speak to you. Look here for some possible song choices.
Photos or Paintings. Sometimes a picture really is worth a thousand words. If you’re having trouble finding the right thing to say, you can always include a photograph or print of a painting that captures your feelings.
Write Something Personal. If you can find the right words to express how you’re feeling, a personal note is always appreciated. Some suggestions for what to say:
General
- Thinking of you this Mothers' Day.
- I’m here if you need an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to hold.
- I’m sorry your baby can’t be with you for Mothers' Day. I’m thinking of you.
- [Baby's name] is in our hearts and minds this Mothers' Day.
- Wishing you strength and peace this Mothers' Day.
- I love you.
- You can always count on me.
- You held a life within you and no one can ever take that away.
From a Husband to a Wife
- I am so happy I married you.
- Thank you for being the mother of our baby.
- Together we are strong enough to get through this. I love you.
From a Mother to her Daughter
- I am so proud of the woman you have become.
- I wish I could make things easier on you, and I hope you know I am always here for you.
- You are strong and beautiful and I love you.
