Canadian Infertility Counselor, Erica Berman, has plenty of personal experience in the realm of infertility, and miscarriage. In a recent humorous blog post for the website The Huffington Post, Berman offered up suggestions for 12 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman.
Berman clearly comes from a most private end of the personal information spectrum, but some of her suggestions will be painfully familiar to my readers.
If you need a good laugh, I'd recommend taking a read of the entire article. Here for you now are a couple of Berman's most humorous, poignant list items.
2. Never tell a woman struggling to get pregnant to "relax." Remember, if there is a real medical reason for infertility, that ain't gonna help, and you're urging is not going to make her feel any more relaxed. It's going to make her want to punch you.
5. Never tell a woman who has miscarried that next time she'll just have to: drink less coffee, worry less, exercise less, eat better, etc. etc. Miscarriages are rarely caused by controllable factors, and making her feel like it's her fault is a disgraceful thing to do.
10. Never assume what a woman dealing with miscarriage or infertility wants or needs. Come out and ask her if she wants to talk about it. Avoiding the issue may make some women feel worse while others may not feel like discussing it. Just ask!
What suggestions would you make to add to Berman's list?
Suggested Reading:
What to Say to a Woman After Pregnancy Loss
What Causes Miscarriage?
Can Stress Cause Miscarriage?
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